The most fascinating thing about dating is how, what we want and expect to happen on a date, doesn’t always correspond to what REALLY happens on a date.
For a couple of seconds, I want you to think back and remember a guy you dated that you were immediately attracted to on the very first date.
Remember how that very first sight gave you butterflies? Remember how just thinking about him made you tingle? Remember how when you weren’t with him, all you could think about was being with him again?
Infatuation is a dangerous feeling. But how does this affect your love life?
Most infatuated women become a little obsessive. If you’re anything like most women then you’ll probably start checking your phone every 5 minutes to see if he called or texted. You become a little needy. You constantly tell your friends about him and share every single detail of your conversations with them.
You can’t properly communicate with him because whilst trying not to say the wrong thing, you often say nothing. Or even worse, you say something so pointless that even you can’t believe you actually said that.
You start feeling stressed and begin to act nervous. You don’t want to mess anything up because you like him so much so you’re no longer as easy going, relaxed or even charming when you’re with him.
He gets you overly excited and you show it. You compliment him all the time and he starts to see it. You even tell him that you see/want a future here.
You start to become weak because you’re so impressed with him and so concerned about what he thinks that you put him high on a pedestal, a rightful place in your mind.
And here’s your biggest mistake.
The moment you put anyone on a pedestal, they start looking down on you. If up until that point he thought you were equal, the moment he’s high and mighty he will realize that “he’s above you”.
“Sadly, this is one of the biggest drawbacks of being infatuated by a man.”
Neediness, nervousness, over excitement and weakness – these words define a woman that is infatuated by a new man in her life.
Sit back and think about them for a second. Do you find them attractive?
Then it shouldn’t be a big surprise when that man you like so much, upon seeing a needy, nervous and weak woman, stops calling you. With all honesty, what would you expect him to do? You come out way to serious about him, way too early and that obviously scares him away.